Perimenopause can bring changes that make you look at intimacy differently. Comfort, sensation, pelvic wellbeing, and intimate care can all become more important as your body moves through a new stage of life.
Based in the Netherlands, inWONDERSTATE brings together body-safe pleasure toys, intimate care, and pelvic wellness products designed to make exploring those needs feel more personal.
Here is how different sexual wellness products can fit into changing intimate needs during perimenopause, from everyday care and pelvic wellbeing to exploring pleasure in new ways.
Understanding Changing Intimate Needs During Perimenopause
Perimenopause is not the same experience for everyone. Your preferences, comfort levels, and relationship with your body can change over time, which can also influence how you approach intimacy.
That does not mean intimacy needs to become complicated. Sometimes, the most useful starting point is simply paying closer attention to what your body is telling you. You may become more interested in intimate hydration, more curious about pelvic floor wellness, or more open to exploring different types of stimulation.
This is where a broader approach to sexual wellness can be useful. Rather than focusing on one particular product or experience, you can consider the areas that matter most to you and explore from there.
Intimate Care for Everyday Comfort
Sexual wellness does not begin and end in the bedroom. Everyday intimate care can also become part of how you look after yourself, particularly when your body and its needs are changing.
One example in inWONDERSTATE's collection is the Revitalizing Intimate Massage Drops, which combines pH-balanced lubrication with intimate skin care, using SyriCalm™ to help soothe and moisturize sensitive skin.
Its versatile formula can be used during intimacy or as part of everyday care, including when hormonal changes bring new concerns around dryness, irritation, or friction.
This type of product can be approached much like other forms of personal care. It is not about fixing your body or trying to make it behave as it did at another stage of life. Instead, it is about recognizing that intimate areas deserve the same thoughtful attention as the rest of your body.
For those exploring sexual wellness during perimenopause, this can be a useful distinction. The goal is not necessarily to find one product that does everything, but to build an approach that reflects what you actually need.
Pelvic Wellness Can Take Different Forms
Pelvic wellbeing is another area that can become more relevant as intimate needs change. inWONDERSTATE's Pelvic Floor Recovery includes pelvic trainers, Kegel weights, vaginal dilators and other products focused on body awareness, gradual exploration and comfort.
The Ami Kegels by Je Joue offers three different weights for gradually building pelvic floor strength, while the Pelvic Trainer - Kiwi takes a different approach, with a focus on relaxing, releasing and reconnecting with the pelvic floor.
These products demonstrate why pelvic wellness should not be reduced to one idea of what your body needs. Some women may be interested in strengthening their pelvic muscles, while others may be more focused on relaxation, awareness or simply understanding their bodies better.
If you are experiencing persistent pelvic pain, painful penetration, pressure, incontinence or postpartum concerns, inWONDERSTATE recommends seeking personalised guidance from a pelvic floor physiotherapist or qualified healthcare professional.
Finding a More Comfortable Approach to Penetration
For some women, changes in comfort can affect how they think about penetration. Instead of seeing this as something that has to be endured, it can be an opportunity to slow down and explore what feels comfortable at your own pace.
The Wellness Silicone Dilator Set is one option in the inWONDERSTATE collection. The four-piece kit uses soft, medical-grade silicone and comes in different sizes, allowing gradual exploration.
It is designed for women looking to gradually rebuild comfort and confidence with penetration, including those navigating postpartum recovery, medical treatment, or anxiety around penetration.
Another option is Ohnut - soft buffer rings, which are designed to customise penetration depth. Rather than changing the experience entirely, the rings can be used to create a more personalised approach to depth during partnered intimacy.
The important idea is choice. A product does not have to be used simply because you are going through perimenopause. It can be considered because it addresses something you personally want to explore.
Pleasure Can Evolve, Too
Changing intimate needs are not only about comfort. Perimenopause can also be a time to become more curious about pleasure and discover what feels good now.
inWONDERSTATE's selection includes different forms of stimulation, making it possible to explore according to personal preference rather than following a single definition of pleasure. The Lumii Clitoral Suction Toy by Biird, for example, is designed for clitoral stimulation, while the Gii G-Spot Vibrator by Biird focuses on deeper, targeted pleasure.
For someone new to pleasure toys, there are also smaller and more approachable options. The collection includes beginner-friendly products such as The Classic Vibrator Vibe by Maude, as well as compact options such as the Mini Vibrator.
This variety matters because there is no universal perimenopause experience. One person may want to prioritise comfort and intimate care, while another may be more interested in rediscovering pleasure or trying something completely new.
Choosing Products Without the Pressure to Get It Right
Having more options can be helpful, but it can also make choosing a product feel overwhelming. inWONDERSTATE approaches this through a curated selection and personal guidance rather than expecting everyone to navigate an endless catalogue alone.
Their Quiz is designed around experience, curiosity, and preferred sensations, with recommendations ranging from gentle and beginner-friendly to deeper, rhythmic and bolder preferences. This can make the process feel more like discovering what suits you than trying to identify the one "correct" product.
That philosophy also reflects the way founders Wendelien Hebly and Sanneke Ringeling approach inWONDERSTATE. Their focus is on making sexual wellness feel more approachable while combining body-safe choices, thoughtful design, and a sense of confidence and playfulness.
Exploring What Sexual Wellness Means to You
Perimenopause does not come with a single set of intimate needs, and your approach to sexual wellness does not have to follow one either. You might start with everyday intimate care, explore pelvic wellbeing, look for a more comfortable approach to penetration, or simply become curious about a new kind of pleasure.
That is what makes inWONDERSTATE's curated collection useful. Their products offer different starting points depending on what you want to explore.
With its focus on body-safe, thoughtfully selected sexual wellness products, inWONDERSTATE offers a more personal way to explore intimacy as your needs change. Explore inWONDERSTATE's collection and find a starting point that feels right for your body, your preferences, and your stage of life.
